Worry Less!!!!

We could do with less worry, and more genuine care. Worry is a misuse of care, a projection of fear.

Worry is so often a projection. I’m worried about YOU because I have doubts about MYSELF. It seems so clear when its put like that, but in the heat of the moment worry convinces us that its pure concern.

Worry is usually based on speculation about what might happen in the future, maybe based on what happened in the past. It doesn't make it true. In truth, another person’s choice might be exactly right for them, even if it wouldn't be right for you. 

Love people enough to trust them. Trust may be the ultimate expression of love. 

Trust people to know what’s right for them, and keep your worries to yourself.

Concern is a gift when its expressed well, a curse when expressed as self doubting worry. As a gift, we can say to each other, “Honestly, I’m concerned. I SO want you to be well, to succeed, to thrive and I totally believe in you. 

BEFORE you express anything to another person that may squash their self belief, clear your own airways to make sure you don’t inflict YOUR suffocating anxiety on them.

Feel convinced that you are NOT projecting your own fears and there is genuine danger for your loved one, get creative. Come up with creative ways to move forward that are affirming. It might go something like this,

“I believe in you and I trust you. If anyone can make this work, its YOU. 

Get creative about solutions. Offer productive ways forward.

And above all, let your main expression of concern be trust, confidence and optimism. Anything less is short selling the relationship.