Gracies Blog

Unconditional love  is loving without limitations, conditions or reservations. It is based on an attitude of complete acceptance which means  you decide to love other people - and yourself too, of course - by being happy with them just as they are, without needing to change them in any way , allowing them to grow, to be all that they want to be for themselves, even if this does not include you or fit with your plans. This is the ultimate focus of all our work, at the very centre of everything, if you can truly love and accept yourself, then your life experience has no limits. When we were babies, we knew unconditional love, but over time, as we grow up our thoughts become conditioned by the world around us. We learn the behaviours that work to survive, we learn whether we are good or bad, what is acceptable and what is not.  Deep down don't we all crave this love? Though it often feels lost to us. So often we seek or demand love from others, but are complet...

Some people hold onto their anger, refusing to forgive or let go.  They will never move on until they do.  In fact quite the reverse, by allowing such emotions to ferment inside, they grow and can become all consuming, their whole life becoming defined by whatever the event was. They are no longer in control of their life or living the life they want. They are living a life that is directed by their anger and hurt. How our lives are, is often a reflection of our reactions to the ups and downs of life. If we choose to accept the good and release the bad, we are able to maintain control over our lives and keep our sense of direction. If however we  focus on the bad things that have happened to us then these will simply grow, continually manifesting our own dark thoughts and divert us from seeking what we really want. If you or your life is " stuck ", then it is well worth looking back to see if there is anything unforgiving in your past. Remember to forgive everyo...

“There is a difference between wanting something and being ready to receive it.” Everyone wants money. Everyone wants to be happy and everyone wants to meet their perfect soul mate. The reason people don’t get what they want is because they either don’t know how to ask for it or, more importantly, they don’t truly believe they’ll receive it or they are too scared to go for it. Absolute faith only comes when you erase doubt by becoming  actively involved  in the pursuit of what you want. This means taking action, and the more action you take towards getting what you want, the better prepared you’ll be for responding to the universe, your subconscious or to your higher power, when you’re presented with opportunities to get what you want. Belief cannot be built through spoken affirmation alone, you must also invest energy towards getting what you want by taking action on your plan for achieving what you want. Physical energy is a huge faith builder, and even; The book of...

I have it all. I have a soon to be husband and ex-lovers. A house,  a debt and a dog that is too cute for it’s own good in my head. I have long friendships, caring parents, loving family members, and a pantry full of food. I have vacations, clothing and an education. I have the seasons, the daylight and sleep. I have the here and now and the possibility of tomorrow. I have gardens and oceans. I have every colour and every sound in all the earth. I can reach for the horizon or just put one foot forward. I have fear and pain both deep and frightening. Doubt that freezes me in place, and bad circulation. I have control issues, environmental issues, and parent issues. I have anger, am irritated and skeptical. I have grief, loss and pits full of loneliness. I have complete clarity, and utter disbelief. I have the freedom to question and the safety to just be. I have the luxury to explore, myself. I have nowhere to be and everywhere to go. I have space to run and shadows ...

The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them. by MAYA ANGELOU  Its a hard lesson to learn. We want to be trusting and forgiving, but end up suffering when we see the signs but refuse to follow them. Most of us have at least one relationship we can look back on and in hindsight we can pinpoint the exact moments when people revealed their true character. Whether out of generosity or naivety, we ignore the signs. I sometimes wonder how different life would have been if I’d believed him/ her the first time he/she showed me who he/she was. I've been schooled in this lesson several times in my life. I’m setting the intention to start believing people when they tell me who they are. I still want to allow plenty of room for second chances. I've needed enough of them myself. But where’s the line between second chances and being naive?  Maybe its in the distinction between making mistakes because we’re confused about who we are, and locking into a habitual way ...

We could do with less worry, and more genuine care. Worry is a misuse of care, a projection of fear. Worry is so often a projection. I’m worried about YOU because I have doubts about MYSELF. It seems so clear when its put like that, but in the heat of the moment worry convinces us that its pure concern. Worry is usually based on speculation about what might happen in the future, maybe based on what happened in the past. It doesn't make it true. In truth, another person’s choice might be exactly right for them, even if it wouldn't be right for you.  Love people enough to trust them. Trust may be the ultimate expression of love.  Trust people to know what’s right for them, and keep your worries to yourself. Concern is a gift when its expressed well, a curse when expressed as self doubting worry. As a gift, we can say to each other, “Honestly, I’m concerned. I SO want you to be well, to succeed, to thrive and I totally believe in you.  BEFORE you express anythi...

The essence of all love, is gratitude.  So we must celebrate gratitude, it deserves the highest holiday.  Thank you, world; thank you, mom and dad; thank you teacher; thank you fruit tree; thank you friends; thank you stranger, thank you Life.  How can one say I love you if one can not first say thank you? Impossible. Revenge is profitable, gratitude is expensive. The best things in life aren't material "things". They are moments, feelings, lessons, faith, emotions, discoveries, and truths. This one of my favorite song Lyrics dedicated to my one and only half (K.M) Rita Ora - Grateful  I'm grateful for the storm Made me appreciate the sun I'm grateful for the wrong ones Made me appreciate the right ones I'm grateful for the pain For everything that made me break I'm thankful for all my scars 'Cause they only made my heart strong  I was thinking I was trying to end out From all the pain that was weighing me down I pulled it together and...

We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure,  mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us.  We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.  Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.  The most important thing for you to know is that it is impossible to feel bad and at the same time be having good thoughts. That would defy the law, because your thoughts cause your feelings. If you are feeling bad, it is because you are thinking thoughts that are making you feel bad.